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It Has Been a Great Ride

Then the clock reached the 90th minute, marking the end of the game. The end of the season. And the end of a high school athletic career.

We LOVED watching you play.

Being a high school athlete is not easy. Being one in the Classic 8 Conference adds another level of difficulty. A scholar athlete, yet another piece of complexity. Having your Dad be the Coach for half of the year adds more. Coming back from surgery to a part of your body required to succeed in both sports just adds to it.  But you did it.

We LOVED watching you play.

You were able to have great coaches in your life that molded, mentored, encouraged, challenged, assisted, took chances, made you expand your horizons. Coach Worzella, Coach Perugini, Coach Hauser, and Coach Ksobiech in soccer. Then on the swim side, it was the holy trinity of female coaches with Coach Sarah, Coach Jordon, and Coach Elle. Not sure what we would have done all four years without them.

We LOVED watching you play.

We had a series of ups and downs over the past four years. And I learned as season 2 was going on that I wanted to be your Dad at meets when you swam. We hardly disagreed on what was best for the team or for you during that time. You were Captain for 2 seasons but in reality had it figured out what makes a team click after freshman season. That was your leadership coming out.

We LOVED watching you play.

Many things we could not have predicted would happen.  Your coach swimming you in JV your first high school meet because he was not sure what was going to happen – it was the 200 IM. Having your first prom as a Sophmore on your birthday after two soccer games that were over an hour away. Most would not have handled that as well as you did. Hating butterfly moved to being a love and a key to breaking the school record and going to State twice. Tearing your ACL and recovering mentally and physically from it. Being named Prom Queen after being told you did not need to wear your brace a couple days earlier. A tough senior swim season not being at 100 percent leading to being named Female Athlete of the Year. Making 17 saves in one game and then a PK the next. There is more. But these jump out as things that we will always keep in the front of our minds.

We LOVED watching you play.

We took a ton of pictures with the new camera. And more with our iPhones. You have some of the best senior pictures ever with your sports shots. Thanks Jason!!  

We created a ton of memories. We had some pretty awesome talks about life. We had a ton of laughs mixed in with some tears. We had a pretty good run at this student-athlete thing. And if Thursday is the last time you lace up your cleats or put the goggles on competitively, we just want you to remember one thing….

We LOVED watching you play.


Burned Out

Last Thursday I was talking to a friend of mine before our swim meet and she asked me if I ever get burned out from all the coaching? My quick reaction was No. Can never say you are burned out only 4 weeks into the season, and could never say that when your kid is on team.

But then I got home and I started thinking about it.

Burned Out. What does it really mean? Does it just mean tired? Because even when I am not coaching I am tired. Being a Husband and Dad and Friend and Co-Worker and Coach takes a great deal of energy and time.

I just finished reading The Energy Bus by Jon Gordon. I would highly recommend it. It talks a great deal ask_garyvee_template_Podcast_copyabout positive energy and what you can do with it and how to use it to your advantage. You have to have a plan, have the right people supporting your plan, and then help those around you also reach their goals.

Wonder if anyone at my “fun job” has heard me say something like that before. Heck, I am sure there are people at my real job that hear me say that on a regular basis.

The other tie to being burned out is to Gary Vaynerchuk.  Once again, I highly recommend him. But I warn you, he is very energized. I can only equate it to the first time I saw Amy Schumer in Trainwreck.  Never knew her or anything about her. She is not for everyone, but her style can grow on you.  Same as Gary. He knows his stuff, some think he is arrogant. I think he is just confident.

Gary has a segment on his web site called #AskGaryVee  During a recent segment a person asked Gary how he has the time and energy to get things done.  And his short answer basically was that if you love what you are doing then you are All In and then you always have time and the energy to get it done.

So there it is in a nut shell. I do not get burned out, but I do know when to take a step back and decompress. Like I did this past weekend. A little rest once in a while helps as well.

For Good Instead of Evil

honor pinThese past couple weeks I have used the expression “Using my powers for Good instead of Evil” more than a couple of times when talking to friends. It came up with co-workers, coaching buddies, and church members.

Yesterday in the mail, Michelle received a letter from the Girl Scout office.  Enclosed was a letter informing her that she is going to receive the Honor Pin.

Not knowing exactly what the award signifies, I went online to check it out.  From sources on line from various Girl Scouts of America council websites I was able to determine a couple of things:

  • The second highest award in Girl Scouting for volunteers
  • The service performed by the candidate is above and beyond the expectations for the position held, and has
    made an impact on a geographic area within the council’s jurisdiction
  • In Milwaukee, you need three letters of recommendation
  • Because you are nominated, you usually do not know that you are going to be up for the award or receive the award until you are notified

The process leading up to the award started long ago when Anna started in Daises and had progressed all the way to now being Day Camp Co-Director for one of the largest volunteer led camps in the state of Wisconsin.

A great honor for a really great person.  Using her powers for Good instead of Evil.

That is what it is all about!

Merry Christmas

Most years Michelle and I talk about sending out Christmas Cards. And every year it gets to the point where we are way to late to get them to all of our family in friends in time for Christmas. Some years we just don’t have any pictures that are good. Some years we go to Disney and lose 8 days 🙂  Some years, I decide to become the North boys’ swim coach, which begins the day after the girls season ends.

Then even if we have a good picture, do we write the elaborate letter of what we did during they year? Do we go month by month summary, or do we do it by each person in the family.

We have decided that we are not sending cards out again this year. If that means we fall off some people’s Christmas Card list, we fully understand. We really enjoy your cards and letters. So this year, we will post a a family picture and will have some notes.

Here is the 2014 Christmas Picture:


The reason I picked this one from our most recent trip is that I think it represents Team Bedalov pretty well.

I am wearing a Badger shirt for our deep love and support for UW, although we don’t make it to all the games. This is our 21st season as a football and basketball season ticket holder.

Luke is wearing an SC Soccer shirt. Both kids are playing soccer, Luke for SC and Anna in High School. Both are playing goalie and both are getting much better each season. In the spring, each will have a new coach.

Anna is wearing her WIAA State Championship sweatshirt. Both kids are swimming, Luke for Express and Anna for Express and on the HS team. She made it to the HS State meet this year on our Medley Relay. With all four relay swimmers coming back next year, we may make a 2nd trip to State

Michelle is wearing a purple pull over, and although it does not say Waukesha North on it, the Purple Palace has become a strong center piece to our lives. I coach two teams there, Anna goes to school there, Luke will go to school there, and Michelle works there. It really is part of our extended family. We know, respect, and love the staff.

The only thing not on the picture, besides Luke now has braces, is the fact that although we as a family are in 40 different directions each day and week with things like Church Choir, WCAP, Swim practice, Girl Scout Camp, Presidents Advisory, Athletic Directors Advisory, Key Club, Soccer Practice, taking drivers Ed and now starting to practice drive, giving blood, Confirmation Class, etc  — we are closer as a family than we have ever been.

I recently posted that we could not have taken the trip to Disney without our great support system around us, and I truly meant it. We have so many things to be THANKFUL for this year. And there is a good chance that if you have continued reading to this part of the post, you are one of the people that we would like to “thank” for being in our support group once again this year.

End of the Season

The 2014 high school swimming season will come to a conclusion this Saturday afternoon in Madison. It will mark the end of my 7th season at Waukesha North and my 24th season overall. It will also be the end of Anna’s 2nd high school season.

The season started off pretty well. A couple meets in we were swimming pretty well.10671280_10154822190235338_1521554855841116107_n

Then a thing called Patellofemoral Stress Syndrome was introduced to our vocabulary.

We initially took Anna to see the trainer at North High School.  She works for Orthopedic Associates.  We then took her to see my brother who has a masters in Physical Therapy.  He confirmed the diagnosis.

We then took Anna to the Advanced Practice Nurse Prescriber at Children’s Hospital in Wauwatosa.  She confirmed what we already knew, but

The APNP prescribed 99 sessions of therapy.  I am pretty sure that is code to keep going until we get this resolved.

Last week, Michelle and Anna went to an evaluation at the ProHealth Care at Westwood with the therapist.  The exercises she’s been doing with the Waukesha North trainer every day for 45 minutes before practice the past 7 weeks have been good. The therapist gave her some other things to try and she’ll talk with the North trainer about more things she can do.

While this was all going on for the past 7 weeks, we have had meets and invites. But the training schedule that Anna was on was less than optimal for high impact swimming, with the goal of making it to the State Championship.

We carried a note along to every meet to let the officials know that we had approval from a trainer to have Kinesio tape on when competing. By rule this is not allowed by the NFHS or the WIAA without authorized permission from an authorized source.

The first meet in the last 6 that she was able to swim the full slate of her events was the Conference Meet. And considering everything we had gone through, she swam really well and mentally cleared a big hurdle.

Then this past Saturday came. It is the Sectional Qualifier, and is your only chance to make it to the State Championship Meet.  Our best chance to make it was the 200 Medley Relay with Anna being a key leg of the relay.

DSC04368-2And she came through looking like a champ. Swam her split in a lifetime best, then wen on to swim three more times, with one more lifetime best in the 100 Butterfly.

The rest and more therapy will now need to wait one more week because the relay made it to State!

There are no guarantees in life. And she and I talked about it on the way home from the meet Saturday. Need to make sure you savor every moment like this because you never really know when they will happen again.

As a parent and as a coach this has been one of the more stressful seasons for me in a long time. It is always hard to gauge when any kid is in pain, and it is worse when it is your kid. You can see the potential and the effort she puts in, but then the pain is too much. Too much for a 15 year old to go through.

Once the meet is over on Saturday, we are going to start to rest and heal. Physically for sure. Probably a little mentally as well. And that is for both of us.

A personal HUGE THANKS to everyone this season for their support and assistance this season!

Movember is BACK

We are in the middle of #BreastCancerAwareness Month, and the Women’s Swim team did a fantastic job selling T shirts in September in preparation. We sold over 125 T Shirts with the proceeds all going to the Susan G. Komen foundation of SE Wisconsin.

But now November is right around the corner. And that brings us back to Movember!!

The past two years I have actively grown a mustache. And although the family supports what I am doing, I am pretty sure they all hate the mustache. Maybe Michelle can write a post on her new blog site on how much she does not like it 🙂

It all starts November 1st!

Movember2014The Movember Foundation is the leading global organization committed to changing the face of men’s health. They achieve this by challenging men to grow, and women to support, mustaches during Movember to spark conversation and raise funds for prostate cancer, testicular cancer and mental health problems.

Of the funds raised in the US in 2013, 83.8% has been committed to programs supporting prostate cancer and testicular cancer initiatives. The Movember team is proud of the high percentage of funds committed to programs, which is above international best practice of 80% of funds raised invested in programs.

This Movember, I’ve committed my upper lip once again to help change the face of men’s health by growing a mustache, now I need your support:

I’m passionate about this cause because too many men are dying unnecessarily from testicular cancer, the most common cancer in young men. Current treatments for testicular cancer are pretty good, but pretty good is just not good enough.

The Movember Foundation is working around the clock and around the world to improve the lives of men and their families affected by testicular cancer. I need your support to fund this important work. Together, we can create a world where no man dies of testicular cancer.

You can donate by:
– Donating online at


– Writing a check to ‘Movember’, referencing my registration ID: 4877585 and mailing it to:  Movember, P.O. Box 1595, Culver City, CA 90232

The past two years I was able to raise $400 each year.  Hopefully with your generous support I will once again be able to reach that goal.


Doing The Right Thing

FlowersLast Thursday for our dual meet, we had Family Night.

In the past it was called Parents Night. But because the culture of what makes up a support system has changed int eh past 5 to 10 years, we have moved to calling it Family Night. It is a night where the student/athlete recognizes the person or people that are supporting them this season OR for the past 4 or in some cases ever since they started swimming at a very early age.

This year we put two little twists on it.

First, we invited the opposing team to participate.  Sounds a little odd, but the opposing team does not have a pool, and thus has no home meets.  I learned a long time ago when I was coaching at DSHA that being “road warriors” all the time for practice and meets is a struggle. We had contacted the other coach a couple weeks ago and asked them to participate.

We had the girls from Catholic Memorial introduce their families and the girls were able to give them a flower as a sign of their “thanks”.

The second thing was something that I learned from the old North soccer coach.  He had his players write a note to the support system. A note to show them that they were really thinking about what that person means to them. I printed up blank letterhead for both North and Kettle Moraine and handed it to the girls on Tuesday to have done by the meet on Thursday.

I had called my Dad over the weekend and asked him if her was coming out to the meet this week since he has been to a good number of our home meets. He said he was.

Michelle was busy chasing Luke around from Vex to Choir to this and to that, and I was busy organizing the girls to get the mid pool event complete.  So, when Anna got to the microphone, she said that Grandpa Roger was there to support her. She gave him a letter that she wrote to him.

But both my Dad and I, as well as Anna, knew that this was really for my Mom. She would be so excited to see how Anna has developed into such a talented and smart your lady.

When the 10 minute program was over, my Dad called me over.  He said thanks and that was really nice.  He did not need to say anymore because I knew exactly what he was thinking.

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